Sometimes I am dissapointed in society.

I think I finally know why I find my position so frustrating. I was reading a blog that was written by a local news anchor who stayed in our shelter last night, and I was reflecting on the stories she wrote about the women she had encountered since last night. At one point she was talking to a woman who was unsure of her future.

“what will you do after this?” she asked

“I don’t know, I’ll probably go back to my partner.”

Then it discussed the anchor’s pure shock that a woman would go back to an abusive partner.

I read back a few posts, and read about how the room she stayed in was so small, and she can’t imagine women having to live in such a small space for a whole year.

That’s the reality of it though. This is the truth that no one wants to look at.

Did you know that every minute of every day a Canadian woman or child is being sexually assaulted? In fact, the province I live in is actually the highest in Canada for domestic violence. This is the disgusting truth.

Then I thought about why I get so frustrated when I am at work sometimes. As I read on, deeper into this anchor’s blog I realized that in all reality, my job shouldn’t even have to exist at all.

If only I could stand up and shout, “Do you want to know why you should donate to our organization? BECAUSE YOU ARE A PART OF SOCIETY.” We shouldn’t have to use what little money we have to lure people into giving us money to help women and children who are being abused. You know why you should give money to help stop the cycle of violence? Because it is a human rights violation. What if it were you? What if you woke up every morning with bruises all over your body because your partner had beaten the crap out of you in front of your children the night before? What if you had to wear makeup on your body to hide the bruises that his or her hands left behind? What if it was your mother, sister, niece, or aunt? No, it’s not nice to think about, but it’s happening. It’s happening everywhere and to people you wouldn’t even expect. It might even be happening to you right now.

I think this is mostly a problem with large companies. We have to basically be the sexiest cause, or the coolest cause of the moment to gain attention. And it’s this fact that makes me so disappointed in modern society. There are literally SO many problems in the world, that it’s making charities offloaded from the GOVERNMENT fight to the bitter end to try and win the hearts and minds of anyone they can for support. When I think about how many causes there are it really just makes me sick.

Why should a woman have to deal with the abuse her partner dishes out? Because there’s not enough information out there or funds to be able to help everyone. And for that, I am so sorry.

Why should animals have to be abused and left for dead by their owners? Because there is not enough information or funds available to help all the animals.

If you can help any organization of your choice, I urge you to do so. I urge you to give what you can to a cause you believe in, and do it not for the recognition. Do it because it is that cause that you would like to help out. Don’t restrict the funds. The biggest gift you can give a nonprofit organization is the gift of unrestricted funding. Funds to help buy a comb for a woman who comes into a shelter with nothing but what she’s wearing. Funds to help save one of the many hundreds of animals that we are killing every day around the world. Funds to pick up something fresh for the hungry other than just non-perishable food items.

I know not everyone can afford to give to charity. If you are though, don’t wait for someone to knock on your door, please just lead the way yourself. You have no idea how much it would mean.

10 Responses to “Sometimes I am dissapointed in society.”

  1. 1 Princess Pointful May 9, 2007 at 9:48 pm

    Great post.
    I have actually been thinking a lot about violence over the past few days after reading (finally) The Lovely Bones and comment by the author about how we act like violence is so abnormal and shocking when it is really part of so many people’s day-to-day lives. That is really something that should kick people out of their complacency.

  2. 2 Manda Girl May 9, 2007 at 9:55 pm

    Man, I hear ya. I heard a report this morning about how abused people in Calgary have a horrible chance of leaving an abused partner because of the lack of low-cost, affordable housing/rent space. The new premiere was asked to comment on that fact and he stated that they are focusing on families and family housing right now.

    WTF! Why do we even have to chose between the ones in need? We are supposed to be a province that is healthy (in wealth) and yet everyone seems to be suffering for it.

    We also have a sponsor child with World Vision and during Christmas they sent us a catalogue with “extras” that we could send to our child’s community. For $60 you could immunize 100 children. I spend over $60 in a week on coffee’s and snacks.

    It’s hard to determine who needs your help the most. I used to be a believer that we needed to help those closest to us first (kids in our city instead of sending boxes of supplies to third world countries) but I know that there are so many that are in need – it’s just overwhelming to think about sometimes.

    ALSO – it’s sad that organizations like yours have to beg for money to keep people safe. I was trying to organize getting some items picked up from our place to donate to like-organizations and there weren’t any who picked up anymore because they don’t have enough funding for stuff like that. It would be easier for me to call those Junk guys and get good quality items hauled out to the dump.

    Sad, sad world.

  3. 3 Katy May 10, 2007 at 12:03 am

    I am a firm believer that a person who gives to charity or volunteers throughout their lives does it (usually) because they were brought up to do so. Children who get whatever they want, whenever they want and live thinking they’re the only ones in the world are the ones who don’t give back.

    I took my daughter to a soup kitchen last Thanksgiving and I plan on making that something we do often, as well as volunteering at the shelter. I want to know my daughters will contribute to society as well.

  4. 4 Missmalice May 10, 2007 at 5:52 am

    I totally agree with you. We support world vision (it was overwhelming when faced with the plethora of charities to support, but we liked the grumpy looking litttle boy in the photo) and the rspc. kids – check, animals – check.

    Have you seen the advertising campaign in the UK against abuse? I think it’s the NSPCC or something like that – it is really effective. So true it shocks.

  5. 5 Ultra Toast Mosha God May 10, 2007 at 11:01 am

    I pay monthly to a charity which helps children in Africa, and i had be thinking about cancelling to help save money.

    What was i thinking?!?


  6. 6 LMizzle May 10, 2007 at 3:11 pm

    I think if it’s a matter of affecting quality of life, I’d say cancel for sure. If I weren’t saving to move I’d donate to charity. I mean, sometimes it’s just a matter of not having the money because there’s so many things we also need to think about. Generally I think of the people who have a LOT of money, like a corporation, who apparently needs convincing to donate to any charity.

  7. 7 John May 10, 2007 at 7:20 pm

    Still in the process of organising our World Record Bid to raise money for CLIC (Cancer and Lukaemia in Childen). This is the 2nd time I’ve raised money for them (see my Wales post).

    Frustrates me when I see so many filthy rich people not giving enough. Like footballers. Who actually NEEDS 120,000 pounds a WEEK? THAT’S injustice.

    Incidentally, this is an amazing post. You do a fabulous job.

  8. 8 Princess Pointful May 11, 2007 at 7:46 am

    Side note that John made me think about…

    Part of the reason for all this, it seems to be, is our society’s obsession with wealth and all that is associated with it.

    We are enthralled by the purchases and goings-about of the rich and famous… we worship people and their 50 cards and 12 houses, when we really should be degrading them for such useless excess.

  9. 9 Ultra Toast Mosha God May 11, 2007 at 9:01 am

    This is why I can understand certain Islamic factions disgust with western society.

    As PP says, we are obsessed with accumulation of wealth, which, of course, is an empty, nutritionless pursuit.

    But I don’t think the ends justify the means, if you get my drift.

  10. 10 Missmalice May 12, 2007 at 6:30 am

    Corporations have a lot to answer for. When Shell or similar says oh, we donated 2million to charity blah blah, you think, oh that’s nice. 2 mil. But then in the bigger picture, you look at the total net profits of the firm, say, something like 300 bil, you think – cheap chump. that’s less than pocket change! It’s all relative. Not all are like that – many donate time, encourage their staff to participate in probono work, support and sponsor projects etc, but so many Corporations have proven to be serious misers. Bah humbug all the way.

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